New Day, Dear Universe –
It is a rainy, foggy morning. Almost everything is a shade of gray, so the few birches and beeches with their bright yellow-copper leaves really stand out.
My thoughts, this morning, are revolving around aim. We can be very effective when we pick a goal, and then set our intention to reach that goal. It’s about choosing our target, and then taking aim.
Sometimes, though, because of the way we’re wired and what we’ve become programmed to believe, it can get confusing to know what our real target is.
In relationships – whether at work, in marriage, or with family – we may aim for no arguments or drama, where we all play nice and seem to get along.
Or, as an individual – we may aim to be seen as strong and sure, able to handle anything and everything, all the while remaining positive and in control.
Or, we may want to please others, and feel liked and accepted, invited into the group.
The target we choose will determine where we aim, and where our effort and attention will take us.
So, consider this – if our aim is for no argument or drama, then that can actually encourage a lack of communication when there is discord, struggle, and disagreement. If the aim is to appear strong and sure, then it can deny the need and benefits of working together or asking for support and encouragement when we need it. If the target is to please everybody, it will be an impossible goal to achieve, and we can lose ourself in the process.
Too many times, we create an untenable situation when our goal is superficial and about appearance, rather than substance.
It’s not that our goal is “wrong.” But that superficial goal is on the surface. The next step is to drill down to what it would take to organically create that result.
Please consider this Prompt:
Okay, Dear One, we’re back to asking that priceless question – “Why?”
For example, why do we want a relationship with no drama or argument? Maybe we’ve been in, or have witnessed, relationships where people attacked and disrespected each other; where there was always conflict – and we hated how it made us feel.
Asking ourselves why we want what we want can identify the thoughts and feelings motivating and pulling at us.
When we ask ourselves why, again and again, we drill down past appearance to substance.
Maybe it’s not simply the absence of argument, but it’s really the desire for harmony, civility, mutual respect, calm, and kind communication.
Dear One, list ten goals you have in your life, and then ask yourself “Why?” for each.
See if you can drill down to the substance of each. Because, that’s where you’ll learn the most about yourself, and who you want to be.
To me, this is just a different angle into My Integrity. Thanks for the guidance, My Soul Spirits!
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