Change

Back in the day, when there were vending machines everywhere (there are still vending machines, aren’t there?) and people still carried change, there was a vending machine that wasn’t fully functional. On it, the proprietors had taped a sign stating, “not accepting change.” Underneath it, someone stuck a post-it note that read, “Change is inevitable.”

I think it’s a cute story. 

In life, change catches a lot of blame. On both sides of things. When confronted with change, we often resist, knowing that change means disruption, which is often accompanied by discomfort, challenges, and learning curves, all which can make us feel vulnerable and unsure. Not the kind of journey we would necessarily volunteer for.

Yet, when we desire change—either in ourselves, in our situation or circumstances, or perhaps in another—change can suddenly feel quite impossible or incredibly far off.

Change can be quite a trickster. It can also teach us something important about the difference in the way we experience the path of our head compared to the path of our heart.

Our mind likes patterns and likes to predict. So, it likes to keep things the same, no matter how those things are making us feel. Our heart, on the other hand, wants us to grow and change, have wonderful experiences, connect with others, become better humans, and live fulfilling and purposeful lives.

When we face change, our mind quickly shouts, “This will be hard,” before our heart can fill us with dreams about the wonderful opportunities that might be unlocked by the change. And when our heart is fueling us to change and grow, our mind takes advantage of the smallest struggle or setback to shout, “See, it’s not meant to be. Change is too hard.”

The possibility of change, though, in and of itself, can be such an uplifting experience. Hope for something better and for a brighter tomorrow are anchored in the possibility of change. Change is the fuel for growth, and for learning and striving. Change is a foundation stone in practice and improvement—consistent effort will reap reward.

The possibility of change is the farmer planting seeds. It’s parents with a new-born. It’s the ribbon-cutting for a new business. Saying yes to a first date. Possibility is the marriage proposal; it can also be couples’ therapy. It can be buying your first pair of running shoes. Or trying to get sober. Or trying again.

The coaching I do with men is all about creating positive change in your life. Helping you turn up the volume and attention on that vision from your heart, so that it fuels your choices and actions and carries you ever closer to that future you.

This is transformation. It’s what I do. And it’s possible for you, too.

Shall we begin?